I know that marriage is about compromise (or finding creative solutions, or win/win scenarios or whatever the current non-compromise buzz words happen to be) and that planning a wedding is going to require some compromise too…
And so, in the spirit of getting used to not always having my way, I decided to loosen my grip on good ol’ Celine Dion and consider some alternatives.
After all, wouldn’t it be nice to have a song that means something to me and PIC, or that at least reminds me of him? I fell in love with My Perfect First Dance Song when I was like 13: nearly two decades before I even met the man in question.
But we don’t have a special song. And we really don’t like any of the same types of music.
Unless you count U2. And Barry White.
But everyone likes U2 and Barry White.
And I really can’t see us dancing to either one of those at our wedding.
At any rate, I started doing some research, googling first dance songs and what not, and although this seems like a bit of a cop out (shouldn’t we have a special song already?), I tell myself that the very fact that sites like these exist is proof that we’re not the only couple having trouble in this department.
Ergo we are normal.
Ergo we are still a good match.
I was rather tickled by the suggestion of All for You by Sister Hazel, which has some slightly-less-than-romantic-but-nonetheless-realistic lyrics. I pulled it up on Youtube and by the time it got to the line about wondering what you see in a person, I found myself practically weeping at my desk in the middle of the work day because there are in fact times when I ask myself this question (like when he makes sarcastic comments or leaves his gym bag in the middle of floor when I’ve just spent 2 hours straightening the entire downstairs…) but in the end I always find myself still wanting him.
Anyway, I texted PIC, feeling all loved up and happy and proud of myself of sacrificing Celine Dion for the greater good and asked, “What do you think of Sister Hazel?”
He texted back this picture:
So I guess it’s back to the drawing board.