It was bound to happen sooner or later. Yesterday, I got an email on my public account—my SingleinSouthPhilly@gmail.com account— from a fellow Match.com user. A fellow female Match.com user who evidently had just gone a date with one of the men I dated (and wrote about) last year.
This is a totally random and inappropriate question, but is the guy you wrote about in this post named [well, actually I’m not going to reveal that. Sorry folks]? I Googled him because I went out on a date with him via match.com. My friends and I used to make fun of “pickup artist” type guys who pots [sic; presumably she meant post?] on internet forums and when we were on the date, he started using the techniques that these guys used to chat about and told me that he does life coaching on the side. Lo and behold, I found a series of creepy yet funny podcasts about how to pick up women, as well as his company he’s attempting to start up and the iPhone apps.
He actually mentioned you on our date. He didn’t really say much though, just mentioned that you were an eloquent writer and kind of quiet and then mentioned something about bridezillas and [one of the talk show producers who contacted me after the ABC segment aired, but I’ve been sworn to secrecy on that account]. I just thought it was interesting and kind of gives you another perspective if you actually do go on the show and talk about dating him. I feel kind of weird emailing you about this, but you’ll probably find it more amusing than my friends did so I thought I’d share.
The email wasn’t signed by anyone but it did indeed amuse me. So thank you for that, and please pardon my delay in composing a reply— I’m still trying to figure out what to say! I’ve done my best to preserve the identities of the men I’ve dated and I certainly don’t intend to change that now.
At any rate, this email got me thinking: is there a place where women (or men for that matter) can go to rate the people they’ve dated? Sort of a Rate My Professors for online dating? If not, there totally should be. You could rate people for things like promptness, politeness, actual physical appearance vs. what they wrote in their profile… and there could be some sort of moderation process so that the entire thing wouldn’t devolve into a mockery of their— you know— sexual performance (or lack thereof).
In fact, you could call it Rate Your Date and you could—
I’ve just Googled it.
And such a thing already exists and yep, its called DateRate. (Go figure.)
So much for that million dollar idea. (Although the site looks pretty low budget if you ask me, so I don’t think anyone is making too much money off of it.)
In the meantime, what do you think of the concept? Is it fair? Would you rather know your date might turn out to be an axe murderer (or a jerk, or six inches shorter than he described himself to be?) or would you rather try your luck without trying to sort through someone else’s baggage?
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