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Vintage Ladies and Vintage Wines or, An Afternoon with my Abuela

They do warn you at the Flower Show

Tuesday’s debate about cultural assimilation (as it applies to dating, of course) reminded me of a conversation I had with my grandmother last week.  She came to Philadelphia, as she does every year, to celebrate her birthday with a trip to the Philadelphia Flower Show.

This year, her visit coincided with my first (and last) date with the Bovary Reading Bachelor but before I take another controversial foray into twenty-first gender politics by relaying the contents of this conversation, I thought I’d set the stage.

When I informed the Bovary Reading Bachelor of my pre-date plans to, he asked “Is your grandmother going to give you a hard time about going on a date?”

“Nah,” I lied.

In truth, there were at least a dozen things she would have found objectionable about the Bovary Reading Bachelor: his age (he had 13 years on me), his previous marriage, his less-than-perfect church attendance, his love of literature beyond the Bible, and so on and so forth.

Had she known we’d met online, she’d have probably objected to that as well but she has no idea about my blog, my column or the fact that I’ve become something of a serial dater.  And given that she always ends up liking my boyfriends a little too much (as in “I’ve been praying for my granddaughter to meet a nice man,”) I’d rather keep it that way.

My plan was to slip into my heels and slip out to Fork without my grandmother knowing I was going on a date.

As such, I told her “I’m meeting a friend for dinner” while we strolled from the Flower Show’s “Reflections of Notre Dame” to a display inspired by An American in Paris.

“A friend?” she asked hopefully.

“A friend.” I repeated.  (By the way, I could totally work for the FBI.  Aside from the fact that I post the daily trials and tribulations of my love life on the internet, I’m a steel trap.)

Unfortunately, this conversation with my grandmother took place before we went to the wine tasting and wine tastings with my grandmother are always an experience.

Last year, for example, the EMS had to be summoned.

In her defense, my abuela is rather petite—it wasn’t that she was drinking too much wine but rather that she hadn’t been drinking enough water. This was due, in no small part, to the fact that last year’s wine tasting provided nothing but wine.  (I’m talking no water, no nibbles, no chairs, and don’t even get me started on the lack of ventilation in the Convention Center.)

Granted, they tell you to “drink responsibly” at the entrance but strange things happen when you bus thousands of suburban senior citizens to the Flower Show.

This year, to my mother’s great relief, there were water pitchers on every table and despite having been escorted from the wine tasting on a stretcher last year, my abuela was determined to return.

My mom packed an entire bag full of water bottles and granola bars and I made it my duty to escort Abuela from booth to booth.  (Nothin’ like the blind leading the blind.)

'Buela and the Bar Tender

I spent the majority of the next two hours exchanging Secret Service-style text messages with my dad: “Abuela is on the move.”  “We have visual.”  “EMS standing by.”

(See what a good FBI agent I’d make?)

Somewhere between the Chambord to the whipped cream liquor (yes, there is such a thing as whipped cream liquor and yes, it’s actually pretty good) we ran into a pair of elderly day trippers from Reading—and believe you me: these ladies put the “trip” in day tripper.

“Aren’t the flowers lovely this year?” my grandmother asked, double fisting with a water bottle in one hand and a shot of whipped cream liquor in the other.

“The flowers?” Trip #1 laughed.  “We haven’t even seen the show yet!”

“We’re here for the wine!” Trip #2 exclaimed with a flourish of her bejeweled wrist.

Over the next twenty minutes, Trip #2 and I became BFFs, swapping travel stories, relationship woes and drink recommendations.  (What can I say?  My grandmother talks to everyone, my mother talks to everyone and despite the fact that I think they’re both un poco loco in this regard, I tend to follow suit when under the influence.)

“You have to try the Chambord!” I urged my new companion.  “It matches your sweater!”  (See the sort of logic one can dispense with a Masters degree?  The FBI is probably putting together a lucrative employee benefits package for me as we speak.)

As Trip #2 and I waited in line, she told me (and this is a direct quote), “Don’t get married until you’re at least 35.  But you can marry a black man if you want, this is 2011.”

Three generations of refined taste...

Well now…

Tucking this little pearl of wisdom away for future use, I downed my second glass of Chambord and returned to my grandmother, who had by then learned that I was not meeting a mere “friend” for dinner.

You’ll have to wait till Monday for the rest of that story (go figure: dating protocol has changed quite a bit since the 1940s).

In the meantime, get ready for My Single Male Friend Friday!  Tomorrow’s eligible bachelor holds the distinction of being my very first Match-dot-commer to make an official appearance on After I Quit My Day Job.  He’ll be offering his advice on dating and relationships and quite possibly a photograph!

14 Responses to “Vintage Ladies and Vintage Wines or, An Afternoon with my Abuela”

  1. Zak

    Grandparents are so cute, aren’t they? Before my grandmother passed away, I learned she 1) liked writing poetry, 2) was thrilled about Obama winning, and 3) went out swing dancing in her youth. You never realize how similar you are to your family until they start telling you stories. Glad you can still have fun with your Abuela.

  2. Genevieve

    I enjoyed this post a lot, very funny. The flower show sounds like quite the event! Thanks for brightening my morning 🙂

    Also, that’s a lovely scarf you’re wearing in that pic!

    • Kat Richter

      Thank you and your welcome, although I’m quite embarrassed about that scarf: it was supposed to be a gift for a friend but I decided to keep it for myself (and yes, I already had the same scarf in two different colors…) 😦

  3. Mary Lynn

    I’m all in favor of talking to total strangers. It is, after all, how I met your landlord.
    Me: Hi, I’m a total stranger and I’m wondering if you’d like to sell your weekend house.
    Landlord: Why, no, but I notice you have a .edu URL. Do you know anything about Goucher University?
    Me. Why, yes. Let’s get together, drink some wine, and start planning the Hooper’s Island Black Friday Martini Bar Soiree.
    See? Good times.

  4. Wink'd

    Sounds like I’ve been missing out. More flower shows, check! I have been to a bridal show. All the free cake… mmmm.


    • Kat Richter

      I went to two bridal shows when I was in grad show just for the free cake! The second time one of my flat mates was actually sort of engaged and we pretended to be her bridesmaids but the first time we were total bridal-show crashers!

  5. katra

    Great post. Made me laugh on a dreary,rainy Friday. You will let us know when that inevitable offer to join the FBI comes through,won’t u? Lol!


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