The questionnaire

The Semi-Gold Standard

It’s been two months.  I say this not because I’m counting but because one of the self-help articles I read recommended doing so. (Okay, that’s a lie.  I am counting.  But I’m okay with that because it means that time marches on, even if I don’t always feel like I’m marching along with it.) More…

40 days

The 40 Days Phenomenon

So I stumbled 40 Days of Dating recently.  I don’t know how I missed it—it’s been all over the news and in magazines and supposedly they’re going to make a movie out of it starring Paul Bettany. (Then again, I always miss things.  I didn’t know about Pete Seeger being dead until I got bored…

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The Truth, The Whole Truth

Today makes two weeks.  My brother called to see how I was doing yesterday and, after a few minutes, finally ventured “Is it too soon to ask what happened?” “Oh.  No, of course not.  What happened is… we just fell out of love I think.” The things is, there are always so many versions of…

rebound

Best Practices for Breaking Up

I’m terrible at break ups.  That not to say that anyone is particularly good at them but if there’s a better way to handle things and a worse way to handle things, I’m pretty sure I’ve always chosen the worse. Take Boyfriend #1.  He cheated on me.  Yet I drove up to Montreal in a…

stick figure family

Breaking Up… with the Kids

The saddest thing, by far, about this relationship ending is that it hasn’t left just one hole.  It’s left three. TWD’s youngest accidentally took a pair of my jeans when flying home after the holidays.  There was some confusion with the laundry and well… teenagers are easily confused. I don’t actually care about the jeans…

love egg

Tell Me on a Monday?

It’s been three days, ten hours and approximately 35 minutes.  I feel okay.  I feel good even.  As if a weight is lifted, but then, without that weight, I feel like I’ve lost my footing, like I don’t know which end is up anymore. Who am I going to call on my way home from…

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A Girl’s Guide to, you know…

Step 1: Remove photos from desk Step 2: Remove photo from desktop Step 3: Unfriend Step 4: Unfriend Mutual Friends, Set 1 (his) Step 5: Notify Mutual Friends, Set 2 (mine) Step 6: Reprogram cell phone “favorites” Step 7: Unschedule already scheduled blog posts Step 8: Email girlfriends to call emergency Happy Hour That’s about…

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How to Avoid Judge Judy

When I told my mother that TWD and I were *thinking* about moving in together, she gave me two pieces of advice. 1)      Make sure you get everything in writing.  You don’t want to end up like one of those trashy couples on Judge Judy. 2)      It won’t be easy.  Buying a house with someone…