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Writing Wednesday: How to Date a Blogger

If you write a blog about dating, should you tell the man you’re dating? I get this question a lot actually (especially after last Monday’s post), and my answer is always the same: YES! During my Manthropology days, I let all prospective suitors know up front, from the get go. I felt it was important, especially because in those days a lot of different men took me out to dinner and if a man takes you out to dinner, the least you can do is let him know said dinner might show up on the internet in the morning. (How’s that for a little nugget of wisdom in this here digital age?) Now though, the blog is different. And now I’m not just dating any Tom, Dick or Harry. Now I know what I want; now I want to build a life with someone. And so the blog comes up again. I told PIC on our first date. I told him I write a blog, I told him the name of it and I told …

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No Woman is Out of Your League

If you’ve been single for a while, it’s easy to find yourself feeling low on confidence. Many singles develop an idea of where they think they ‘rate’ in the dating game and what sort of singles they consider to be ‘in their league’. The good news is that this is all absolute nonsense. No one should ever think less of themselves when it comes to dating. (Note: Today’s post is sponsored by eHarmony.  I didn’t write it but I think there are some great points here.  Let me know if you agree by commenting below!) If there is a woman who catches your eye and you feel like you share something special, never underestimate the powers of seduction. Here is a look at how, with the right attitude and approach, no woman is ever out of your league. 1. Heal old wounds If you’re driven by the belief that you aren’t good enough, then chances are your confidence has taken a knock somewhere along the line. You might have been rejected in the past, or …

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A Man in Your Bed Can Be Distracting

Life, after a week-long cruise to Bermuda, can be rather exhausting.  So The Wedding Date and I are off to my parents’ place in the middle of nowhere for the weekend.  In order to provide you all with your daily (okay, semi-daily…) dose of dating related amusement, however, I’d like to direct your attention to HotDateIdeas.com. This week, I’ve written on Where to Meet People and fun date ideas that will allow you and your partner to Try Something New, Together.  I particularly enjoyed working on the latter, mainly because TWD was lying in my bed at the time giving me suggestions and flashing me “come hither” looks all the while asking, “How much am I getting paid for this?”  (I told him I’d buy him a drink.) So enjoy!  And don’t forget to share (not just “like” but share) if you like what you see. (And yes, yes… I know there are typos.  That’s what happens when you get up at 6:00am to head into New York for a film shoot and find yourself …

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Bermuda Bound

By the time you read this, The Wedding Date and I will be off to Bermuda!  I’ve already lost my passport, only to discover that I had placed it in the outer pocket of my suitcase specifically so it wouldn’t get lost while I was get my carryon ready, but I think all systems are a go now. Plus, I have not three wide brimmed beach hats. And how you can go wrong with three wide brimmed beach hats?  They’re rather impractical (Samantha Jones never mentioned that in Sex and the City…) and I can barely see out from underneath them but they match my bathing suits and that’s what really matters. Now, rather than go on and on about my next way cool earrings or how many pairs of shoes I’m bringing, I’d like to share a few pieces I written for a website called HotDateIdeas.com. I love talking about dating, and I love telling people what to do, so it’s an awesome gig.  Plus, I get to do arts and crafts (see below). …

They’re Alive!

I have this friend… let’s call her Sherry (if for no other reason than I think I’m going to need a drink after this post). Sherry needs some advice, and since you all seem to have plenty of it, I figured I’d allow her to hijack my blog for the day.  And just so we’re clear, I’m not complaining.  I like your advice.  In fact, sometimes I wish I followed it more often.  But getting back to Sherry: she’s been dating this guy for the past few months and she really likes him.  He’s kind, spontaneous and although most of his pick up lines are totally lame, he cracks her up. There’s only one complication— two, to be precise—and they’re not actually “complications.”  They’re what made Sherry’s new beau into the man he is today (although he doesn’t always admit this) but she’s kind of nervous about meeting them because… well, they’re alive. In fact, they’re kids. Little miniature human beings. Except they’re not actually all that little, which is too bad because Sherry, like …

Standards Revisted (Because Sometimes Lists Can Be a Good Thing)

Ever since I became aware of the fact that boys didn’t actually suck (and didn’t actually have cooties), I’ve kept a list: Must be tall, must appreciate classical music, must not smoke pot and so on. Given my penchant for writing and writing implements, I updated my list every few months from the age of 13 until… well, right around the time that I wrote that post about standards and started thinking that maybe I was being a bit too shallow. But a lot can happen between 13 and 26, which might explain why my lists were always reactionary and never based on any real logic.  If I’d just broken up with a man who didn’t care about religion, I’d aim for someone who was more “spiritually grounded” the next time around, only to realize that fundamentalist Christians weren’t really my “type” either. I treated education, personal hygiene and financial stability (or lack thereof) the same way, hence November of 2010 (when I spent a month bouncing back and forth between Date #17, the workaholic …

Break Up 101: How to Dump (or Get Dumped) with Dignity

Nothing from nothing but if you’re dating a woman who writes a blog about… well… dating, you probably shouldn’t send her twenty two text messages when she finally comes to her senses about your relationship (or lack thereof) and decides to call it quits. Nor should you email her.  Or send her Facebook messages.  And you certainly shouldn’t send duplicates of the same messages just to ensure that she gets them. Trust me: she gets them.  And you’re not doing yourself any favors when you call her names and accuse her of being a drama queen.  (After all, she’s not the one who’s sent 22 text messages, now is she?) The good thing about breaking up with a man who’s made you miserable for the past six months is that the actual break up causes very little pain.  Mind you, I use the term “breakup” loosely because it’s hard to break up with a man who never wanted to be your boyfriend in the first place, but I’m proud—if somewhat mystified—to report that I shed …

Serial Dating Does NOT a Relationship “Expert” Make

You might have noticed that I’ve cleverly avoided the subject of my love life for the past few days.  This is because it’s easier to offer my opinions of “hooking for food” than try to make sense of… well, whatever it is that’s going on in my life. I’m always amazed when friends come to me for relationship advice.  Sure, I’ve gone on my fair share of dates over the course of the past year and a half (okay, maybe more than my fair share—70-something dates with 30 men to be exact—not that I’m counting) but relationships?  Relationships aren’t exactly my thing. I went from serial monogamy (with a penchant for long distance relationships of the international variety) to serial dating.  Now, thanks to marvels of modern technology (i.e. Match.com and an Excel spreadsheet), I’ve been able to line up five first dates in as many days.  And although it’s been a while, I’ve even dated two guys in the same day.  I’m not exactly proud of this fact but nor am I terribly ashamed …