All posts tagged: Online dating service

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Throw Back Thursday: Date #12

Here’s a little tidbit from 2010, back when I was young and crazy and able to date multiple men at the same time.  Enjoy! I’m sitting cross legged on the floor, eyes closed, holding the index finger of my left hand against my left nostril and breathing through my right.  Why?  Because the flap on my box of Yogi Chai Rooibos tea bags told me to, that’s why.  These twenty six breaths through my right nostril are supposed to bring me “sunny energy” and with five first dates in five days, I need all the energy I can get.  (Sorry if you were hoping for a steamy account of tantric sex; it’s just cardboard box yoga). Prior to the advent of this blog, I don’t think I’ve ever been called “energetic.”  Actually, there was one time.  It was in Ehmkendorf, a tiny town in northern Germany.  I was seventeen and just completing my first international service project with Volunteers For Peace.  On the last day of the workcamp, one of my fellow volunteers presented me …

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Online Dating… at the Library!

Big news, folks!  I’m going to stop whining about life, love and the frustrations of semi-long distance relationships for a moment and get back to talking about the thing I do best: online dating. Now before you get all worried that I’ve dumped The Wedding Date and have decided to re-launch My Great Date Experiment with another six months on Match.com, I haven’t.  We’re fine.  In fact, I’m heading over to his place tomorrow afternoon and on Friday we’re going to his parents’ house for a barbeque. I have, however, decided it’s high time to do something productive with all of my— well… training in the field of online dating.  So I’ve paired up with the Free Library of Philadelphia to offer a series of free seminars entitled Online Dating 101. They’re going to be all across the city, at different library branches and on different days of the week, so if you happen to be local and happen to be single, you have no excuse.  I’ll be covering how to choose the best online …

Dad’s New Girlfriend

(And no, I’m not talking about my dad.) The more astute readers amongst you might have guessed that Monday’s post wasn’t actually about “my friend.”  It was—surprise, surprise—about me.  And The Wedding Date.  And the fact that I’m meeting his kids for the first time tonight. For those of you just tuning in, The Wedding Date is my boyfriend; we met at a wedding back in July (hence the name) and after several months of “fieldwork” he finally asked if I was ready to end my “experiment.” Seeing as my “experiment” consisted of registering for three online dating sites simultaneously (and dating 30 men in the course of a year in an attempt to figure out what I’d been doing wrong), it was a perfectly valid question.  We had, after all, just flown to Boston together and six months had elapsed since we first met. Fortunately, we’d got the sticky subjects out of the way early on our first date: I was writing a blog about online dating (and was sort-of seeing someone in Pittsburgh …

Rate Your Date?

It was bound to happen sooner or later.  Yesterday, I got an email on my public account—my SingleinSouthPhilly@gmail.com account— from a fellow Match.com user.  A fellow female Match.com user who evidently had just gone a date with one of the men I dated (and wrote about) last year. Hey, This is a totally random and inappropriate question, but is the guy you wrote about in this post named [well, actually I’m not going to reveal that.  Sorry folks]? I Googled him because I went out on a date with him via match.com. My friends and I used to make fun of “pickup artist” type guys who pots [sic; presumably she meant post?] on internet forums and when we were on the date, he started using the techniques that these guys used to chat about and told me that he does life coaching on the side.  Lo and behold, I found a series of creepy yet funny podcasts about how to pick up women, as well as his company he’s attempting to start up and the iPhone apps. …

Are Serial Daters Just a Bunch of Emotional Polygamists?

I thought I’d heard it all—you try dating thirty men within the course of a year and blogging about it!—but emotional polygamy?  That’s a new one. I’ve been called “immature,” “foolish,” “anti-feminist,” “selfish” and “superficial” but never in the history of my Great Date Experiment has anyone ever called me a polygamist.  And frankly, I’m not a huge fan of the word. Yesterday’s post on one night stands caused quite the stir, with readers on both sides of the fence weighing in.  Rather than debate the “merits” of casual sex, I’d like to provide an excerpt from a comment written by Nick at Late Round Draft Pick: In the past month or so Kat, you have “dated” or been in some type of relationship/contact with three different men.  Take away the fact that there were no sexual interactions between you and these men, there was in fact some sort of emotional discharge/transference/connection, which in turn makes you NOT monogamous, and in fact polygamous in your dating life. It’s no secret that the past month has …

Signs of a Good First Date

Here’s how a first date is supposed to work: Man shows up on time—even a bit early—and politely asks the hostess if it would be possible to get a table now, as opposed to half an hour from now.  (Check.) Man greets woman with a hug and a kiss on the cheek and discreetly-but-not-presumptuously places his hand on the small of her back as they’re being led to their table.  (Check.) Man and woman engage in such animated small talk that the waiter must come by three times to inquire as to whether or not they’ve even looked at the menu.  (Check.) Man wholeheartedly supports woman’s decision to order red sangria as opposed to white (thank goodness—that could have been a major deal breaker), then proceeds to order an entire pitcher. (Check.) Man and woman exchange online dating horror stories, fill each other in on what was really going on in their heads during the wedding reception where they first met (turns out his story is almost as good as mine) and confess their “nerd” …

Girls Rule, Boys Drool (but evidently have rules of their own?)

I’ve always been a rule follower.  The most daring moment of my high school career was the time I excused myself from class to use the restroom without a pass.  How was I supposed to know you needed a pass to go to the bathroom?  I didn’t go to high school—I was simply there to take the SATs— and we were on a break between sections so I just got up and left.  (And was promptly reprimanded for “wandering about” with a pass.) But aside from that brief flirtation with hall pass anarchism, I’ve usually done what I’m told.  And if I’m not told to do anything, I make up my own rules. Granted, sometimes I break my own rules, and I wrote about this very topic in my latest piece for Skirt! magazine, “Adventures of a (M)anthropologist.”  I thought I’d pretty much exhausted the subject (or at the very least my personal code of conduct for successful, quasi-ethical serial dating) but thanks to a comment from fellow blogger Zak of Slow Down, Son, in …

Your First “I Love you???”

So I’m reading yet another book on online dating, this time “Confessions of an Online Dating Addict: a True Account of Dating and Relating in the Internet Age” by Jane Coloccia, when I come across the following passage: Overall the relationship was good.  We spent every weekend together and had a fabulous time whether we were shopping in Wal-mart or going to a winery for a romantic weekend.  One night we were in his house and he was showing me old family movies and his sister called.  At the end of the conversation he said, “I love you too.” “So you do have that word in your vocabulary?” He smiled and said, “You know I love you Jane.” “I love you too,” I said and then we hugged.  It was the first time a man had ever told me he loved me. I am floored.  The first time?  The very first time?  The author is in her forties at this point and her adventures in “dating and relating” span 8 years and over 200 men, …