All posts tagged: eHarmony

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Throwback Thursday: How to Outsmart eHarmony

I wrote this three years ago.  Three years ago and people are still commenting on the original post.  (Seriously, I woke up at 6:00am to the sound of WordPress app pinging away on my cell phone).  I get it, I was pretty snarky back then, and I still have hangups about height, but really this wasn’t even supposed to be about height (or size or shallowness or anything else).  It was supposed to be about gaming the system… which I managed to do.  For about a week and a half.  My God.  I’d forgotten how much work goes into online dating.  And I haven’t even reached the dating phase yet!  I’m still stuck in the interminable quagmire that comprises eHarmony’s “Guided Communication Process” but I will say this: I’ve received some interesting prospects this week. My eHarmony subscription is paid up through June.  As I mentioned last month, the matches they’d been sending me went from bad (5’6”) to worse (5’4”).  And yes, I know I shouldn’t be so hung up on the height thing …

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No Woman is Out of Your League

If you’ve been single for a while, it’s easy to find yourself feeling low on confidence. Many singles develop an idea of where they think they ‘rate’ in the dating game and what sort of singles they consider to be ‘in their league’. The good news is that this is all absolute nonsense. No one should ever think less of themselves when it comes to dating. (Note: Today’s post is sponsored by eHarmony.  I didn’t write it but I think there are some great points here.  Let me know if you agree by commenting below!) If there is a woman who catches your eye and you feel like you share something special, never underestimate the powers of seduction. Here is a look at how, with the right attitude and approach, no woman is ever out of your league. 1. Heal old wounds If you’re driven by the belief that you aren’t good enough, then chances are your confidence has taken a knock somewhere along the line. You might have been rejected in the past, or …

And the Winners Are…

The results are in!  But before I announce the winners of Mitchum’s Sticky Situation Sweepstakes, I’d like to thank everyone who took the time to share their stories.  I received over 60 entries (who’d have thought deodorant could be so inspiring?) and it’s taken forever to select to the best of Facebook entries and the best of the blog entries so if you weren’t chosen this time, don’t worry: I’ll definitely be holding more contests in the future. First up, we have three honorable mentions. Linda (who shared an awkward confession from her mother-in-law concerning her husband’s high school sweetheart), Wendy (whose eHarmony date committed himself after she refused a to grant him a second date) and Brazilian (who accompanied a lady-friend home after a few dates only to find himself hiding in the closet and sneaking out the bedroom door when her father came in to say “goodnight”).  You can read their fabulous stories and many more here. And now, without further ado, the winners of the Mitchum Stickiest Situation Sweepstakes and a $150 …

Kissing Frogs in Cyberspace

In my continued efforts to determine just how far this serial dating epidemic has spread (and how I might learn from those who’ve gone before me), I decided to tackle Kissing Frogs in Cyberspace by Dianne Sweeney. The basic premise is exactly what one would expect of an online dating memoir: a self-possessed but single thirty-something decides to “take control” of her love life and embarks “upon a six-month quest” to find—you guessed it: the man of her dreams. In this case the single thirty-something is a high school English teacher so Kissing Frogs was an absolute delight to read on several counts.  Firstly, the girl can write, so instead of pausing every three sentences to think to myself “You know, she really should have reversed the order of those two clauses there…” I actually got swept up in the all of the drama of Sweeney’s “quest.” Secondly, now I know why all of you read this blog—it’s addictive!  Each time she got ready for her next date, I found myself wondering “What’s he going …

Life Lessons from a FASHION Director?

Ladies and gentleman, I have an announcement to make.  Three actually.  The first is that I spent Memorial Day at my parents’ place in The-Middle-of-Nowhere (Hoopers Island, MD) and am still wading through the comments on Saturday’s post; suffice it to say, the vast majority have left me speechless (and for a variety of reasons). The second announcement is that I’ve had another break through. I was sitting in the living room when it happened, eating chocolate chip cookie dough from a bowl and watching my new favorite show.  I’m not sure what’s more embarrassing: my penchant for salmonella poisoning or my love of mind-numbing reality TV (I mention neither in my online dating profiles). I guess I should just tell you the name of the show, and the nature of my “aha” moment, and let you decide. The show is Say Yes to the Dress.  (For those of who have yet to discover the very finest Netflix on Demand has to offer, it’s a TLC reality show that chronicles the daily shenanigans of Kleinfeld’s …

A Question from the Hot Tub: Would YOU Date Me?

By the time you read this, I’ll be sitting in a hot tub overlooking the Chesapeake with a drink in hand—preferably something cool and alcoholic (even if it is only 8:00am)—and reading one of the Victorian novels I discovered while cleaning my room last weekend.  Today marks my first day off in three weeks and I intend to enjoy it. But enough about me and my bikini— let’s get down to business, shall we? When that radio produced from the CBC called last month to pre-interview me about my “dating spreadsheet,” I quickly realized that my story wasn’t quite what she was looking for.  (This was because I recognized her technique.  It’s called “Ask the same question over and over again, only ask it slightly differently each time.”  This is the same technique I use when I’m in journalist-mode and my interviewee isn’t giving me what I want.) So I tossed her the name of the Spreadsheet Master himself (fellow blogger Dennis H.) and lo and behold, Dennis managed to snag a proper interview.  I’d …

So About that 50th Date…

Last week I launched my official 50th Date Challenge.  For those of you just joining us, this entailed re-writing all of my online dating profiles (yes, all three of them) to be perfectly frank about my blog, my serial dater tendencies and my desire to celebrate my 50th date in style with something (if not someone) special. So, how’s this portion of my experiment going?  Well, in answer to your question, Kate, not very well. I’ve gotten three dozen “So and so wants to meet you!” notices from Plenty of Fish but I stopped reading these long ago.  I’m convinced that the majority of men who frequent P of F are illiterate anyway (hence their inability to compose actual emails) and I highly doubt that any of them took the time to actually read my profile. I’ve reactivated my eHarmony profile once again and let’s just say I’m no more enamored of matchmaking services than I was the last time around.  I’ve begun the “guided communication” process with a couple of prospects but eHarmony likes …

A New Challenge for the Big Five-Oh

Last week I received a Facebook message from a public radio producer in Canada.  It’s contents?  Well, to be honest, it took me a good ten minutes to get past the words “read your blog” and “want to interview you.”  (Not that I’m completely self-absorbed and obsessed with blogging or anything…) I did, however, eventually read the rest of the note.  Turns out, the CBC (that’s Canadian Broadcasting Company for all you Philistines out there— myself included) does a show called “DTNO” (short for “Definitely Not The Opera”) in they which explore a different themes each week. They explore these themes through first-person stories, which is where I come in.  This week’s theme is all about how “keeping track” of things helps (or hinders) our ability to stay “on track.” In other words (the words of the producer, to be specific): I read that you use an Excel spreadsheet to keep track of your dating life.  What’s up with that? So yeah, I had my first pre-interview interview last week; whether or not my story …