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Writing Wednesday: The Pancake Accountability Club

One of the things I struggle with the most as a writer is accountability. Sure, I have goals, and I try to be organized about them, but ultimately I only have to answer to myself, and it’s easy to skive off work early when you’re your own boss. It’s even easier to tell yourself, “A novel? What novel? I never said anything about writing a novel.” (This way, if your first or second or even third attempt doesn’t get published it doesn’t matter. Because you never told anyone about it in the first place, so there’s no one to answer to.) (I’m not at that point yet, by the way. I’m just saying. Hypothetically.) Talking things over with PIC has been helpful. He even took me to dinner at a very fancy, very expensive restaurant in Old City (Amada) to celebrate the fact that I finally finished the edits to my first draft and actually sent the manuscript to my agent. Here are some photos for you to drool over. But nothing compares to talking …

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Writing Wednesday: How to Date a Blogger

If you write a blog about dating, should you tell the man you’re dating? I get this question a lot actually (especially after last Monday’s post), and my answer is always the same: YES! During my Manthropology days, I let all prospective suitors know up front, from the get go. I felt it was important, especially because in those days a lot of different men took me out to dinner and if a man takes you out to dinner, the least you can do is let him know said dinner might show up on the internet in the morning. (How’s that for a little nugget of wisdom in this here digital age?) Now though, the blog is different. And now I’m not just dating any Tom, Dick or Harry. Now I know what I want; now I want to build a life with someone. And so the blog comes up again. I told PIC on our first date. I told him I write a blog, I told him the name of it and I told …

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Writing Wednesday: The Non-Social Butterfly

It’s time for a little confession.  I know my blog makes it seem like I lead a very glamorous life but the truth is, I’m not very good at socializing.  Neither is my brother and it’s weird because our parents are essentially the Homecoming King and Queen of the entire neighborhood.  Everybody loves them, everybody wants to come to their parties, and they go out drinking more often than I do (which is pretty sad, considering that I’m the one still in my twenties). I used to blame my ex-boyfriend for this.  He was perfectly content to sit home and watch videos or play board games, plus I was always visiting him in New Jersey instead of spending time in Philadelphia.  Most of time, he was willing to go out but I always knew when he wasn’t enjoying himself.  He’d go out because it made me happy, not because it made him happy, and we started going on fewer and fewer dates.  I told myself I was okay with this because we were saving for …

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A Surprise Behind the Door

I suppose it’s time to tell you: I came back to my house yesterday—my house, the one with the thrice scrubbed floors that still feel and look and smell of plaster dust, where every chair I own was drug out for the holidays only to be ensconced once again, as soon as the last guests took their leave, beneath their plastic shrouds, lest they too succumb to the scourge of the plaster—to find a bouquet of purple flowers tucked behind my front door (which I have since transferred to a vase on my desk). If I sound melodramatic, it is only because I am reading Middlesex. And because last night’s flowers were not the first. But we’ll get to that later. In the mean time, I am back. I had intended to come back on January 1st, with a spiffy new blog to herald in the new year and all of the resolutions that go with it, but in my infinite wisdom, I purchased a new blog theme that I don’t actually know how to …

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Writing Wednesday: To Blog Anonymously or Under Your Real Name?

Last week, I received an email from one of my “longtime readers.” I know this not because I have some sort of sophisticated tracking device set up through my blog but because she described herself as such and was asking for advice on an issue that many personal bloggers face: to use one’s real name or to go anonymous? “I’ve been writing a blog on and off for 2-3 years,” she explained. “My issue is that I used to try to write safe content for the general public instead of revealing anything too personal but I’m thinking about starting to write a personal blog because there is more freedom. My concern is that I have a full-time job (also in a university) and I’m worried about my conservative older colleagues finding/reading it because I use my real name.” Well, here are my two cents on the pros and cons of writing a blog anonymously vs. using your real name. The first question you have to ask yourself is why do you want to write a …

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It’s Passport Time

Several years ago, back when I was taking my work as a writer a bit more seriously, I went to a conference for travel bloggers in Denver. It was my first time ever attending anything of the sort. I didn’t know back then that if the PR folks from an expensive hotel invite you to dinner at an equally expensive restaurant, they’re going to pick up the tab so you don’t have to sit there like an idiot wondering, “Why aren’t there prices on this menu?” and “Will I look cheap if I just order soup?” Because of the altitude, I kept getting nose bleeds at the worst possible times was also woefully underprepared in the business card department (I ran out within a few hours of arriving and had to make more business cards using hotel stationary, a pink highlighter and some yellow thread which I used to tie them up into little scrolls.  It was not my proudest moment.) But I did do one slightly brilliant thing while I was there. During the …

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When You Don’t Have Time to Blog

Okay world, it’s time to let you all in on a little secret. Contrary to popular opinion, I don’t wake up at 6:00am every morning. When I manage to publish a new blog post by 7:30 it’s because I’ve written it the day before. Blogs like mine, you see, have a nifty little scheduling feature, whereby you can write posts days or even weeks in advance and then set them to post whenever you’d like. I probably shouldn’t be telling you this—all of the other bloggers are going to kill me now—but seeing as several of my girlfriends have suddenly started comparing their productivity to mine (“How do you do that every morning? You are so disciplined! I feel so lazy!!!”) I wanted to set the record straight: my supposed “discipline” and “productivity” are but an illusion, brought to you by WordPress. Now, moving on this past weekend, which I spent with The European at my parents’ beach rental in Ventnor: I’m not sure how much I should say about it, firstly because I don’t …

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Speaking of Nonsense…

Well, since there hasn’t been any major wailing or gnashing of teeth since Friday’s post, I think it’s safe to say that a brief hiatus is in order.  Thank you to everyone who posted comments or messaged me privately, and thanks to everyone for understanding. I’m going to attempt to continue posting on a weekly basis, but you know me: my resolutions never last that long so if you haven’t subscribed already, you may want to do so now so that you won’t miss out on my occasion bouts of non-Twizzler inspiration. Along those same lines, I am going to take several of my more “questionable” posts offline because… well… they’re not quite as professional as I need to be right now.  What with running a dance company and teaching an undergraduate anthropology course and all… So come Friday some of my archives are going to be disappearing.  (Which means you have exactly four days to relive the trials and tribulations of my Great Date Experiment until the majority of it is gone.) In the …