Day: June 11, 2012

The Non-ultimatum Ultimatum

Fear is a powerful motivator.  I know this because for the first time in my relationship with The Wedding Date—actually, for the first time in my life—I find myself afraid of losing someone.  In the past, I’ve always been the one to walk.  The one to decide that this relationship is going to take a lot of work and the reward (the relationship itself) isn’t worth it.  But now the tables are turned.  Now The Wedding Date is telling me, “Listen, I don’t want this to sound like an ultimatum but I need to know: do you want to be with me?  And if you want to be with be, can you handle being with my kids?” It seems like such an unfair question.  Especially when my preschoolers have their final concert of the year tomorrow which means I’ve got to finish laminating their class project today, stuff all of their year-end goodie bags, transport all of their music and props and mats from the studio down to the auditorium, spike the stage, set up …