October 21, 2011 by Kat Richter
Did I mention that tomorrow’s wedding is black tie?
Well, it is.
At least Date #7 thinks it is. I’m planning to bring a change of clothes just in case because men are generally clueless about these sorts of things and Date #7… well, he’s more clueless that most when it comes to weddings, not to mention all of the associated logistics that are, from the female perspective, rather important.
The initial conversation went a little something like this:
Me: Your brother’s wedding? Sure. When is it?
Him: I don’t remember… sometime in October.
Me: Okay… well let me know.
Him: I will.
Me: I’ll need to ask off from rehearsal. And figure out what to wear. It’s not black tie, is it?
Him: No. I don’t think so.
Me: You don’t think so?
Me: Well can you check?
Him: I will.
Me: Ask your mom. She’ll know.
An hour later, my cell phone rings again. It’s him.
“I asked my mom.”
I was initially thrilled to hear this because the word “formal” opens up a whole host of previously unconsidered wardrobe options… provided, of course, that Date #7 actually knows what he talking about. (And seeing as he forgot the date of the wedding and gave me the wrong address for tonight’s rehearsal dinner, I’m not sure that he does).
I thought about sending a Facebook message to the bride to confirm that the wedding is in fact black tie—you know, something nice and friendly like: Hey there! You have no idea who I am but I’ve been quasi-dating you’re fiancé’s brother for the past few months, and he is, as you might have gathered by now, a bit absent minded about some things… Before I show up to your wedding on Saturday in a floor-length gown only to discover that everyone else is sporting cocktail attire, can you please confirm that your wedding is indeed black tie? PS: While we’re on the subject, you do know that I’m coming, right?
I imagine the only thing worse than walking into a semi-formal wedding in formal attire is walking into a semi-formal wedding in formal attire only to discover that your date has neglected to inform the bride of your attendance and your name’s not on the seating chart… but I don’t want to seem neurotic, so I’m keeping my “friendly little message” to myself.
Instead, I’ve decided to simply stash a spare semi-formal dress in the trunk of my car and change in the parking lot if I have to. I’m hoping, however, that it doesn’t come to that because one of the two gowns I’m deciding between is freakin’ stunning and it’s debut at a friend’s wedding a few years ago was rather lackluster so I’d really like to give it another chance…
Wish me luck! And in the mean time, I’m finding myself in dire need of amusement today so its your turn: any embarrassing overdressed/underdressed faux pas to share?
- Semi Formal Attire for Men (igaluxy.wordpress.com)
- Style Me Pretty: Wedding Attire (fabsugar.com)
- Xochitl Gonzalez: 10 Things To NOT Do When You’re A Wedding Guest (huffingtonpost.com)